About Me


Hey there, I am Kayleen! I am excited to share my journey to a healthier version of myself with you. I am starting this blog to help share some words of wisdom of dealing with anxiety and depression, as well as, the day-to-day stresses of life! What qualifications do I have to talk about this? Absolutely none…all I have is a lifetime of trying to manage my own anxiety and depression. I had my first panic attack when I was 13 years old and it has been a roller-coaster of ups and downs since then.

Over the past 20 years I have also struggled with codependency issues, feelings of guilt, self-destructive behaviors, being a people pleaser, my weight and having poor boundaries. I played several sports as a young kid through about age 16 and looking back I realize what an outlet sports were for me and how being active was so important for my health both physically and mentally. I made some very poor choices during that time, which ultimately led me to walk away from playing sports and fitness in general. In many areas of my life, I really gave up caring for myself and my health for a solid decade. Chances are if you asked most of the people in my life during those years, many of them would have no idea the struggles I was dealing with because I let very few people see me completely.

First professional photo when I started in Jan. 2009
Ironically on the outside, it often looked like life was great and as if I “had it all together”. This comes from another side of me that is driven, goes after what I want and is very competitive. So, what else was happening during my early twenties? I was graduating college with honors with a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration – Accounting, passing the CPA Exam, and starting my career as a Tax Accountant. I know how to work hard and push myself, but I was doing all this at a high personal cost. I wanted to be successful, but during that time period it was for all the wrong reasons. This is when my codependency issues were at all time high!

One of my progress photos! 
Fast forward to May 2020, many, many, many bumps along the way but I am starting to find my way more with each and every day. I started out the year, not with a resolution but with one goal, which was to focus on my mental and physical health and take care of myself first! Part of what I want to accomplish is to stop being so ashamed of my anxiety and depression and speak more openly about it and secondly, I want to help others on their journey.

Even putting together this about me section has been difficult and I have had to fight with my thoughts. I still struggle with worrying what other people are going to think. I've thought maybe I shouldn't say this or that because what will my family or friends think or feel, are they going to be offended? What if I don't include a picture of this person or that person, are they going to think I don't care about them as much? Are they going to judge me for not including them or someone they think should be included?

Sound familiar to you? This is why I am here sharing my journey with you, even though it is hard and uncomfortable, I truly hope it will help you with your journey! 💗



A few of my favorite things - my boyfriend (Brain), being an aunt (especially to a couple kiddos who aren't technically related), my friends (they are the best!), catching some rays while on the boat and traveling...



One of my BEST vacations circa 2014
These two...melt my heart! 




This girl has been by my side for more years than I can count!! 








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